Empowerment...the choice is yours

“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and NOT on our circumstances. We carry the seeds of the one or the other about with us in our minds wherever we go.”

 – Martha Washington

I know, I know…we can say that this is a way of looking at life that is rooted too much in the way things used to be in the past – or we can say that whoever thinks this way does not know what we are going through.

You see, we can only live our own lives (as much as sometimes we may try to live other people’s as well) and because of this reality, we will never know how truly bad (or good) other people may have it. Remember what we project to the world is usually “the tip of the iceberg” – where the bulk of the reality is hidden from view.



So, when we look at this week’s empowering quote, we must forget about the rest of the world and think only of ourselves and our reality – because this is where we DO have the power of choice in how we look at things.



I will share this – it is way more difficult and a lot more work to always be looking at the positive side of things and be looking for and at opportunities – nonetheless, no one said that a life worth living was an easy life.



So, choose to be empowered this week and always be looking at the upside of everything that happens in your life. Sometimes it is very difficult to find the upside but we both know that in doing it this way, we will be able to discover our true strengths and because of it, the opportunities that others will miss … those opportunities that will allow us to leave a legacy; to be strong in navigating uncharted waters when others think it can’t be done; to be true to delivering on our responsibility to do the best we can to give the best of ourselves to this world … and in doing so achieve levels of success that we could never have imagined.

Make the choice for you, make the choice for your family, make the choice for the world … no matter who you want to make the choice for – just make the choice to be EMPOWERED and take the road less traveled for it will make all the difference.

Fear of recurrence in cancer survivors

Fear of recurrence is very common in cancer survivors. Though they may go years without any sign of disease, cancer survivors say the thought of recurrence is always with them. You might worry that every ache or pain is a sign of your cancer recurring. Eventually these fears will fade, though they may never go away completely.

Cope with your fear by being honest with yourself about your feelings. Try not to feel guilty about your feelings or ignore them in hopes that they'll go away. Ask your doctor about what you can do to reduce your chance of a cancer recurrence. Once you've done all you can to reduce that risk, acknowledge your fears. Take control of those fears and do what you can to influence your future health. Try to:

• Take care of your body. Focus on keeping yourself healthy. Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables. Fit exercise into your day. Go easy at first, but try to increase the intensity and amount of exercise you get as you recover. Get enough sleep so that you wake feeling refreshed. These actions may help your body recover from cancer treatment and also help put your mind at ease by giving you a greater sense of control over your life.

• Go to all of your follow-up appointments. You may fear the worst when it's time for your next follow-up appointment. Don't let that stop you from going. Use the time with your doctor to ask questions about any signs or symptoms that worry you. Write down your concerns and discuss them at your next appointment. Ask about your risk of recurrence and what signs and symptoms to watch for. Knowing more may help you feel more in control.

• Be open about your fears. Express your concerns to your friends, family, other cancer survivors, and your doctor or a counselor. If you're uncomfortable with the idea of discussing your fears, try recording your thoughts in a journal.

• Keep busy. Get out of the house and find activities that will take your mind off your fears.

Most cancer survivors report that the fear of recurrence fades with time. But certain events can trigger your fears. The feelings might be especially strong before follow-up visits to your doctor or the anniversary of your cancer diagnosis

Breast Cancer - Facing Breast Reconstruction

Those of us who need -- or choose -- a total or radical mastectomy will probably consider having that breast 'rebuilt' through breast reconstruction.

Breast reconstruction

Breast reconstruction can be done either during your surgery or at a future time, and they are generally made from your own tissues or by using implants filled with saline. (Because of the controversies over the potential dangers of silicone breast implants, the US Food and Drug Administration will only allow silicone breast implants to be used in clinical trials).

Whether to reconstruct and how is a decision each of us needs to make for ourselves, along with input from our support network, our oncologist and other medical professionals such as a plastic surgeon.

Share your experience!

If you've had a breast removed and have had -- or decided not to have -- reconstructive surgery, share your experience. Telling your story will help others when it comes time for them to make this important decision.

Managing Treatment Side Effects

Side effects, like treatment programs, vary from person to person. They can be unpleasant, but most often they are temporary, and most are treatable. Typical side effects for the most common cancer treatments include:

Surgery: During surgery, complications may include bleeding, organ damage and organ dysfunction. After surgery, side effects include pain and infection.

Radiation therapy: Fatigue, nausea and eating problems, mouth sores, localized hair loss in the area of radiation, skin irritation, and dryness.

Chemotherapy: Nausea and vomiting, hair and nail loss, fatigue, eating problems, mouth sores, infection, bleeding or easy bruising, low white blood cell count, and anemia (low red blood cell count).

Coping with Common Treatment Side Effects

• Fatigue
• Hair, Nail and Skin Issues
• Infections
• Lymphedema
• Mouth Sores
• Nausea and Vomiting, and Eating Problems
• Neuropathy
• Neutropenia
• Pain

As with all drug treatment, the risks must be weighed against the benefits. In most patients with cancer, the potentially toxic effects of chemotherapy are justified in order to get the cancer into remission. This is not always the case, and you should tell your doctor whether you’ve ever had any type of heart condition, including high blood pressure. You should also inform him/her about any radiation treatment to the chest area that you might have received in the past.

Fatigue

• To avoid fatigue, plan your days so you have time to rest, especially around treatment times. Save your energy for activities that are most important to you and ask for help with the rest.

Juggling Parenting and Chemotherapy

I thought raising children was pretty challenging enough, "Now you're telling me I have to fight for my life? and raise my child."  One of the hardest things I had to face was being a parent who's trying to get well. "In order for me to be a good mom I had to fight this other battle, but that battle was getting in the way of me being able to do the things I need to be a good mom.

Researchers estimated that 562,000 children are living with a parent who is in the early -- and most intense -- phases of cancer treatment. Cancer can be a very stressful experience for children in the household and often, the parent might not even know the extent of the strain that is put on the child. Past research has found that kids often don't speak up and say that they're struggling, trying not to overload or worry their parents. Even after loved ones go into remission, the fears about cancer can stay with a child.  My son was only 2 at the time I got diagnosed, he still has questions.  He is now 5 and asked me the other day if he has cancer-- that was really hard for me. I had to sit him down and explain how mommy is better now and reassure him that does not have cancer.

Though cancer is often thought of as a disease that strikes later in life, new research shows that 18 percent of newly diagnosed cancer patients are parents to one or more minor children. Of these patients, nearly a third of them are caring for children under the age of six.  This means that 2.85 million children in the United States are living with a parent who is battling or has survived cancer.

Whether you are newly diagnosed, or facing a recurrance, parenting through your diagnosis can prove quite challenging.  It is important to open up healthy lines of communication with your young children  through your cancer experience.   Furthermore it is important to seek a strong support system, whether it be through family, friends, support groups, etc.  I highly recommend and encourage proactive preparation. As a single parent it was vital for me to put things in place before I actually started treatement and it made a big difference. I wanted to make sure my treatment would not disrupt my son's daily routine and keep his life as normal as possible. My family stepped up in a big way and took turns coming by to take care of my son so I could rest and focus on healing.

Intimacy After Breast Cancer Diagnosis

Many women find that breast cancer diagnosis and treatment seriously disrupt their sexual lives. First there are the most obvious issues—the physical changes, exhaustion, nausea and pain from treatment, self-image, empty energy reserves, and the emotional chaos from the diagnosis itself. But there are also many other issues that women and their partners may not even know they'll have to face.

Yet retaining intimacy in your relationship both during and after your breast cancer ordeal is critical to your overall recovery. And single women who want to become part of a relationship worry how breast cancer will affect their prospects, about how and when to tell those prospective lovers about their condition.

Reflections

Just sitting here reflecting on July 2009. Looking back at this picture, I was focused on losing weight before my 40th birhday and how I was going into 40 with a bang. Little did I know the bang would come in the form of a Stage III breast cancer diagnosis. This after picture was taken just before I got that news. Thanks to negligence of doctors I almost lost my life. Glory be to God that it was caught just in time. I cannot thank the team of wonderful doctors at Memorial Regional Hospital and the Breast Cancer Centers who gave me excellent care.  Their skilled team of doctors saved my life and gave me a second chance.  God is so able and His grace spared my life. I turned 42 last week and on September 14th last year I finished my last treatment after a year of chemo, bi-lateral masectomy and radiation. My life has come full circle to where I am not so focused on myself and my weight but now I am focused on serving others and sharing how God impacts my daily life. Once again I cannot thank all my prayer warriors enough for keeping me lifted up during that journey. I am forever changed!

Pink Carpet Launch Party & Fundraiser

Contact: 

Andrea Nugent -

954-376-9571

andrea@bionicgirls.org

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE 

“MIRROR OF HOPE” TO BE DISPLAYED AND CELEBRATED

AT B.I.O.N.IC. GIRLS, INC’S PINK CARPET FUNDRAISER HOSTED BY

MEMORIAL REGIONAL HOSPITAL

September 9, 2011 – Pembroke Pines, FL – Join B.i.o.n.i.c. Girls, Inc. as we admire local artist, Berne Born’s, infamous and stunning “Mirror of Hope.”  This special event will be hosted on Saturday October 1st, 2011 from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m., during our Pink Carpet Fundraiser.  The event will be hosted by Memorial Regional Hospital in their main auditorium, and will also feature light refreshments, hors d’oeuvres, jazz music, and a silent auction.  The event will also feature guest speakers Dr. Alejandra Perez (Director) and Dr. Carmen Calfa (Breast Oncologist) of the Memorial Breast Cancer Center.

“Our hope is to offer inspiration to people in the community whose lives have in any way been affected by cancer with this amazing work of art which was created for that very purpose,” said Andrea Nugent, B.i.o.n.i.c. Girls, Inc’s. (Founder and Survivor).

New Book - Mommy is Still Mommy: Cancer Can't Change That!

Filled with text and coloful illustrations on a level that children can relate to, this book is designed to be a conversation starter for you and your young children, as it cleverly tackles the affects of cancer treatment. Cancer no longer has to be a scary topic. This book will simplify the effects of cancer treatment and change the way it impacts your family.

Setting Goals to Transform your Tomorrow.

Set the goal now for tomorrow's benefit
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No matter what aspect of your life you are talking about, goal setting is a crucial factor throughout it all.  As you will see, each of the decisions you make as an entrepreneur will affect your overall goal of being successful with your business.  Yet, there is more to it than just that. 

You should also set goals because they can help you to make the right decisions throughout the process of getting to the level of success that is coming.  By investing the time and energy that you have in setting goals now, you help yourself for each decision it takes to reach the end result you are hoping for. In other words, if you set some overall goals today, you can help insure that your business will be there and be prosperous throughout the future of the business.  Goals now, count. While we all have the same goal of finding success in the future, we still need to set goals to help us to get to that point.  It doesn’t happen overnight!

Eliminating Stress

Stress is a misdemeanor waiting to happen. Stress will wear heavy on your nerves when it builds up, causing you to feel depressed. You may start to develop unnatural health issues that seem to have no justifiable cause for its development. This can lead to several problems. You can avoid many problems by taking action instead of letting stress get you down.

How can I learn to be stress free?

In order to be stress free you have to work at it, it will not come to you over night. It takes time to train your brain to deal with stress. Stress is very bad for you so if you can learn to be stress free you will be better off in the long run. There are many ways to train you brain to get rid of the stress.

What are some of the things I can do to train my brain to be stress free?

You have to decide what you may want to try first and see what will work for you.

Some people may like to read. Others like to just walk or even work out. Working out is a good way to get rid of stress while doing something healthy for your body.

Sharing a Piece of My Story

"Last night I had a discussion with a friend and it led me to this note. It is easy to get up and put on a show like all is well and make people feel like you are so strong. When truly inside you are crumbling and falling apart. I say this because some of us do not ask for help when we need it. Not necessarily help from family and friends, but help from God! He should be the first place we turn. But after you ask for help you have to trust Him. Trust Him with all your heart and all your soul and know that He will carry you through. I will be the first to admit that I did not always do this myself.

Those of you who know and follow me, know what I would say is some of my story. You know the last year and a half has not been an easy road for me with facing and overcoming a battle with Breast Cancer. But the last 9 years of my life had been quite challenging and I was not always so Faithful. God had been trying to get my attention for a long time. For a long time I tried to figure out what my purpose was. I remember reading "The Purpose Driven Life," by Rick Warren one year from cover to cover and still, after reading being very frustrated in trying to find a purpose.

B.i.o.n.i.c. Girls, Inc. - Beauty Is Optional; Newer, Improved, Changed!

B.i.o.n.i.c. Girls, Inc.  -  Beauty Is Optional; Newer, Improved, Changed!
www.bionicgirls.org
             
Mission
Our mission is to empower and transform the lives of young breast cancer survivors who have undergone cancer treatment and/or mastectomy. We focus on rebuilding self-image and self-esteem while creating opportunities for wellness. It is also our goal to promote public awareness and early breast cancer detection in all women.
  
Description
We provide free services to breast cancer patients going through treatment, in recovery and survivors. Our focus is to provide assistance that will allow them to concentrate on healing and less on life's stresses. Services includes ride to treatments, drop-off and pick-up of prescriptions, household cleaning, workshops, support groups and in-home counseling.
  
Key Facts
Target demographics:
We serve low-income breast cancer patients and survivors in the south Florida area. We assist patients of all ages, however, we focus on patients under the age of 45 as this population is increasingly being diagnosed.

Important to Get Moving After a Breast Cancer Diagnosis.

Exercise and Breast Cancer

You don't have to start running triathlons or training for a boxing match to reduce your risk of breast cancer. Doing regular exercise will cut down your risk of developing the disease, as well as preventing its return, if you're a survivor.

Being Sedentary Increases Your Risk
Physical inactivity may contribute to the rise in several types of cancer –- colon cancer, postmenopausal breast cancer, endometrial cancer, kidney cancer, and cancer of the esophagus. Women who are overweight produce and store more estrogen in their bodies than women who have a healthy lower body mass index (BMI). Increased exposure to estrogen and risk of breast cancer are linked, since the estrogen-receptor positive kind is the most common type of breast cancer. Obese women have a greater amount of breast tissue, and it is more difficult to detect breast tumors in obese women, as compared to lean women. This can lead to detection at a more advanced stage of cancer, when it's harder to treat.